Someone help me, I'm drowning in all this bullshit!
As someone who experiences sexual thoughts myself, I know.
For example, if I see a cute guy at the store, or in a movie, I don't think to myself "he's hot, I wonder what he looks like naked?" or fantasize about him sexually, because I am not single. I have standards, and I control where my thoughts go. (Not to say that my standards are everyone's standards, but this is just an example.) The point is, you CAN control your thoughts and feelings, I don't give a shit what these pedophile sympathizers say. I choose not to be a slave or a victim to thoughts. It's called goddamn self-control. Granted, no one is perfect or without mistakes, but the point is actually trying.
However, when you allow yourself to sink into the depravity of the darkest places in your mind, you become more and more desensitized to it, over time something you used to avoid suddenly isn't so bad. Watching child porn and allowing these thoughts to propagate in your mind is like holding a steak over a hungry dog. People think they can control their physical urges, saying, "it's ok to have these thoughts, as long as I don't act on them!" but eventually their depravity consumes them. (Why do you think most child molesters and CP addicts are old?) It's a tragedy. I strongly urge anyone who has commonly occurring thoughts of any illegal and dangerous sexual activity to seek support. If for nothing else, so one day you don't land yourself in jail.
"but it's none of your bizness!"
Yet another weak and desperate excuse. When it's posted on public domain, it's everyone's business. And since when is it a crime to be concerned about people? I didn't make this stamp to judge people, I made it to warn people. If you don't like it, ignore it and go about your merry way. See where your life takes you.
But emotions are hard to fight off. Anger and sadness being the main struggles I have. I tend to get pretty emotional to the point where sadness and anger mix into yelling at others to leave you alone while you're crying. It's confusing.
Sexual thoughts? None here. I have no interest xD and as for falling in love (what a silly term) sure, you may "like" someone, but you can ignore that feeling and make yourself not like the person anymore. I've done it. Few years back I "liked" this guy, but he was a smoker, had a kid (but no custody over it) and got into nasty crap. After a month I made myself loose interest in him because his lifestyle wasn't good, to me at least and it was crap I didn't want part of.
And yes, if you try very hard and work with yourself and probably a professional as well you can help yourself overcome, or at least learn to harness certain qualities of your emotional stability. But it is not easily done.
I'd also like to remind you that some people have mental diseases such as depression or bipolar disorder and these are not things that they can help. And these diseases do not care if the victim has a good education or not, has a functional family or not, has a good supply of food and money or not, and so on. It is a DISEASE. These things sometimes don't even have a reason for occurring. They just do. They're like a cold but they don't affect you in the same places. It's not a thing that you can help. And you can ease it with some pills but it's not fully under you control.
And I'm not claiming that I have any of these disorders either because that would be self-diagnosing and that would be fairly unfair and also kinda stupid. But I want you to get that emotions are not entirely controllable. You can control your actions that sprout from them but you cannot control the emotions themselves.
Or take a deep breath..That helps, my best friend has an anxiety disorder.
It is not simply an attraction, if you look at actual cases pedophiles often premeditate and put themselves in positions of responsibility (e.g. a doctor, babysitter, teacher, coach, priest) and earn the trust of others, and target children when no one is looking. They are monsters.
It is not just a perverted thought going somewhere, and then they act on it. They plan, sometimes to the point of planning their whole life (e.g. a career as a priest) so that they can rape children.
I do not agree with imposing the death penalty on them, because I feel they plan so much, that they would probably kill children to avoid getting caught if that was at stake. I do support castrating them however. People like that reoffend and do not feel empathy for their victims in the first place.
as someone who suffers from OCD, and goes to CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy), I disagree with your statement - you can't control your thoughts or feelings (believe me, I know!) but you can mange them. There is a difference.
I'm not slating your opinion, it's your opinion after all